| Favor Of
THE JOURNAL
It is March and the season of "Madness". Madness is created for me
when I think of how often therapists, self help gurus, coaches, even
friends will say to a person, "You should journal." The maddening
part of this statement is not the advocation of a tremendously
effective tool, but the fact that this is all that is said.
How to use a journal is seldom discussed and how a journal (or
writing for that matter) works to be such an effective efficient
tool. One of the reasons people resist using journals is because
they don't know what to write. Often I hear that people have
received journals as gifts from family and friends. These books
will typically find themselves stacked in a drawer or sitting empty
on a book shelf because the recipient doesn't know "what to write".
If people knew how a journal worked, then what would be known is
that is doesn't matter what you write, simply that you do write.
How does this journal or the
process of writing work? It produces results in both scientific and
metaphorical ways. It works scientifically in that you cannot write
as fast as you think. Because you cannot write a fast a you think,
you have automatically edited out some of the thoughts that exist in
your mind, the ones that keep circling for landing and never seem to
reach their destination. While in your head these thoughts can
remain in this holding pattern for days, weeks, months, years,
generations. These continual tape loops are not edited out and
therefore are not released. Writing is a natural editing process
allowing you to bypass some of the seemingly permanent thoughts that
continually float around in your head. You are able to side track
your normal tape loops simply by the act of committing them to
paper.
Writing allows you to take thoughts
that consistently exist in your peripheral vision and focus your
attention on them narrowing a too wide line of vision. One day, I
was sitting on my deck entertaining some friends when a bird flew by
my head. I jumped out of my chair spilling the lunch that I had
been holding on my lap. Everyone in my party began to laugh. I
didn't see what was so funny because I has almost lost the side of
my head to a bird when one of my friends said, "I have never seen
anyone move so quickly out of the way of a fly, Michelle." I turned
to see what had caused me to jump and it was simply a normal size
house fly. When I put my attention directly on the fly I could see
it for what it was. While I had been sitting in the chair, the fly
had only managed to make it into my peripheral vision. By writing
the thoughts floating on the edges of my mind you put our attention
upon them. Taking these thoughts out of the periphery they become
more manageable in size. What looked like a mountain is now the
proverbial molehill. Writing takes things out of the blurred state
and puts them into focus.
Further, journaling allows you to
let go. It is a release process. Simply by taking something out of
your mind and writing it down, you have let it go. Even writing a
grocery list is a process of letting go. There is no longer a need
to focus your valuable mind attention on whether or not you need to
pick up bread at the grocery store once you write a list. In fact,
this is such a perfect example of letting go that if you forget the
list, you often forget what to buy! What does it release to write
things down? It allows you to let go of anything; emotions, too
consistent ideas, even songs that keep running through your mind.
One day I was singing the them song from a commercial. It actually
seemed to be stuck in my head for hours. Every time I told my mind
to stop singing it, I'd be OK for a few minutes and as soon as I
wasn't completely focused on its absence, I'd be right back at it.
I finally decided enough was enough, and so I wrote down the
particular lines of the song and I was repeating. After that, I was
freed from this torturous set of lyrics.
Once something is written onto
paper, it is tangible. Journaling makes things more real. Writing
creates the ability to develop meaning because it produces a
tangible piece or proof in ink or pencil of who you are. Writing
produces something you can hold in your hand. This information can
be used as a reference to your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and
actions. The journal allows you to see patterns clearly. Your life
story can be reflected in a journal - by writing about events which
occur in life, the thoughts, behaviors and feelings being
experienced. In a journal you develop a process which allows you
something to view so that you can recognize continuity and
assimilate voices in your life - those pictures, values and voices
which are representative of your beliefs. This sorting process
allows journaling to produce a resolution process. The clarity a
journal causes allows you to resolve the conflict between your
authentic self and the values and beliefs of that self and the
politically correct, conflict resistant self image one typically
presents to the world. The journal helps you organize your life for
meaning and intent. |