For many of us, it is difficult to understand that not everything in the world revolves around me and you.  I think that this is particularly true for those on a spiritual path.  I believe that most individuals studying or receiving training in spirituality are taught to shift perspectives.  People are directed to take focus off of "the problem" and place attention on "what am I supposed to learn from the problem?".  This isn't a poor perspective, however, it is important to keep in mind that relationships are not always based upon what "I" have to learn.  I will never forget the day I gave this long diatribe on some issue or other and my teacher, Donna, looked at me and very pointedly said "Get over this, it isn't about you."  You can imagine my amazement at this statement.  After all, wasn't I becoming the most enlightened person in the world?  Didn't everything have to do with me?

     This belief that "everything is about me" is the attachment to self importance.  According to the Toltecs, self importance is one of the agreements that each of us need to work out and unload.  Jung would say that self importance is a belief of the collective unconscious.  It is the arrogance that leads you to think that every situation in the universe is set up solely for "your" lesson.  The attachment to "your work".  What's that thing they say about sometimes a bird flying over your head is simply a bird flying over your head?  Some of the time you are merely an instrument in a circumstance and not the cause.  You have simply agreed to be apart of someone else's creation.

     I have on occasion (more than I care to admit) forgotten that everything is not about "me".  A man came into my life who was confused and in need of clarity.  Because I had my self importance in tow, I thought he had come into my life to teach me about my heart's desire.  As it turns out, my presence in his life was for him to discover his heart's desire.  My being in his life was to give him clarity and to remove him from his confusion.  In reality, the situation had nothing to do with me, I simply was the instrument around which he defined and developed his clarity.  This would have been perfectly acceptable however, I tried to make the lesson about me.  This was my error.  My self importance said "You are the "special" person to offer the sought after clarity," Bah!, I was simply the tool for movement.  This situation was not about my outcome, but rather about his outcome.  However, when I got attached to the idea that specifically "I" had something to learn in this situation, that this was about "me", I got hurt and felt disappointed.  What I needed to remember is that sometimes, I am simply a vehicle for someone else's change, sometimes a flower is just a flower.

     God cannot move energy in any direction without you making a choice.  Remember, ASK and it shall be given to you.  You are inefficiently using time and creation energy when you choose to be indecisive.  The Universe continues to physically back your current state of affairs when you do not make a choice.  So, not to choose is the same as choosing.  Remember, the leap of faith is making the choice.